They
say there is nothing wrong to have a harem of women as long as you can afford
it. Well, that is fine! Weak women
always look for men who can provide their materialistic desires as their “savior” and thinks that having a man is
heaven.
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| Pride of Lions in Katavi National Park |
A
bachelor friend once told me, it is difficult now to find a woman of virtue to
be a wife and a mother to his children. He is not a poor man but an eligible
bachelor, a lot of women where after him especially when he drives his fancy car
or when he hangs out in the bars where women flirt likes flies. Is this because
our women are not smart or empowered? Or simply they think that their
physical beauty is their greatest weapon to the man’s pocket and men are idiots. But physical beauty wane,
man’s desire always have its own limit and in the end men will leave them.
I am always felt sorry and sometimes angered when I meet people who has the potential but unfortunately they are miserable and could have a better future. It is just because they have fathers that abandon them.
I am always felt sorry and sometimes angered when I meet people who has the potential but unfortunately they are miserable and could have a better future. It is just because they have fathers that abandon them.
Early
this week, a baby was found in one of the out skirts of Dar as Salaam, too good
that a Good Samaritan notice the newly born wrapped in the kanga abandoned.
When the news broke, many blame the mother but rarely blames the father. Í hope
the baby is now fine and will have a place where someone will take care of her.
Why
always the women who are to blame, one of my male friend said, he just go out for fun
but women are idiots. What? Blatantly, I answered I felt sorry for him because
he was born from an idiot! Women are known for details but why they always fell
in love with man who is married because they simply felt in love without knowing the man better. As one of my women friend, simply put it, it is transaction business
that becomes personal. One case in point
is a woman who works in a casino, felt in love with man and when she found out
that man was married, she decided to get pregnant from the man on the precept
that the man will leave his family and will stay with her because she is a foreigner
and that is her advantage from the real wife, and siring a child from him, she thought
she can have him completely. When she
told him, she was pregnant, the man reacted, you are an idiot, I have a family
and I have a reputation at stake. The
man will not own responsibility that he suggested to the woman to abort the
child. Period, the woman had an abortion but still always run after the man as
if the man owns her life.
A young
woman come to me while visiting one of the centers, she said, if my father did not
abandon us, maybe I am not in this situation. I hate him. And I answered her not hate her
father, but learn to love him. But she answered back, how I cannot hate him
when I am in this situation now. He abandon us, he abandon also the first
family. He did not support us but he is now with his new girl. Once I come to
him for help, he said he do not have enough because he has money only for his new
girl. Besides he said my mother is a whore.
